My goal with my grief education and creating grief-informed spaces, is teaching grief in the language. Most of us do all we can to avoid it and I want to bust that up.
What would you say to somebody who is going through grief right now?
I would say that everything you’ve most likely ever been taught about grief is not true. It’s an unlearning journey. Allowing yourself to feel it and not feel like something’s wrong with you because you’re allowing yourself to feel it. You got to feel it to heal it. The only way out is through.
The main thing is that grief really is such an overarching topic. Yet people feel like ‘Oh, well that’s just pertaining to death.’ But it’s absolutely not. Many times in life we find ourselves in grief but we’re so detached from being able to identify grief, that we just think it’s pertaining to death. There’s a lot of disenfranchised grief out there like people going through divorces, people going through breakups, people experiencing loss of animals. You’d be surprised there are many different kinds of grief.
In a society where we’re taught to suppress grief and performatively show the world that we’re better so other people can feel better. Most of my clients come to me thinking that they’re grieving wrong. But they’re on a journey to understand that they are grieving and they are reacting in a healthy way.
Where can the readers find you?
Visit my website at www.pregnancylosshealing.com and find me on my Instagram (www.instagram.com/joellespeaks) and Facebook (www.facebook.com/joellespeaks)
My podcast, titled ‘The House of Mourning: Embodied Wisdom from Grief, Loss, and Trauma,’ will be launching this month (July 2023). Stay tuned to my social media accounts for updates!
