Lisa: That’s a great success for you and your husband. Now that your son is an adult, what is your greatest takeaway as his advocate, his mom, and his support?
Robin: I know it has made me a stronger person, and it has shown that I have to speak out for a lot of things—not just for my son, but for myself. It has also taught me that it took me a long time to realize this was not my fault. From the beginning, I thought that whatever happened was my fault. I wasn’t doing something right if he wasn’t getting along with other children. And you put that on yourself, and it becomes an extra burden. Knowing it wasn’t my fault, I think I have come out of this as a much stronger person and much better parent; these things happen.
I have a wonderful support group of friends and family. My son never wanted friends because they abandoned him after his brain surgery. And now, he has friends and goes to concerts in the park and does all these things. And it is wonderful to see him enjoying life. So my takeaway is there is a light at the end of that very long, dark tunnel, and the clearing starts to happen at different points for different people. You just have to know that at the end of things, things will start to normalize. They may not be perfectly normal, but they will start to normalize.
Lisa: Robin, thank you so much for sharing your story.
Kellogg’s book not only includes the inspiration and wisdom she gleaned from her experiences, it also details the resources that she discovered during her journey. A Life Put on Hold: My Son’s Journey with a Brain Injury and the Lessons I Have Learned Along the Way is available on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Life-Put-Hold-Journey-Lessons/dp/0692253491
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