In addition, I at times, begin with simple ideas when working with someone with stress. Simple things like breathing or a simple inexpensive idea, such as blowing bubbles.
Carol: I can relate to both of those for sure. I have bubbles in a few locations in my home, outside and in. Ah, a touch of joy and a touch of childhood, and I know for a fact I am not the only adult who enjoys bubbles. lol
Continuing, Judi, are there any misconceptions or myths about stress or destressing being easy that you’ve encountered?
Judi: Yes. Clients think that to destress they may have to dig deep and work hard. This may be true of deep problems, but to destress for the moment can be simple, easy and inexpensive.
Carol: Any case studies you’d like to share to represent how implementing some of these tips has shown positive results?
Judi: An example is a child that yells, screams, bangs up against the wall, gets violent etc. I think of one situation with a child I was working with that 2 times, when I was near her acting like this, I quieted her down with speaking quietly and lovingly. I told her in a few seconds about Mother Mary and Mary Magdalene fleeing Israel as their lives were threatened. They lived in a cave in France for 30 years. Mary Magdalene taught and healed with oils and is known as the Mother of Aromatherapy. The cave still exists and can be seen. I also shared with her about a famous author, David Stewart, who believes along with many oilers, that plants were created before people because they would be needed for nutrition and healing.
I asked her if she would like to try the oils. She said: “yes” and within a couple of minutes she was asleep. The second time, of course, I didn’t go over the whole story, but spoke softly and asked again if she would like to try the oils and again she said: “yes.” She quieted down in a couple of minutes. Her deep-seated problems aren’t solved, but she calmed down quickly.
Another situation was when another child I worked with for 2 months was learning to calm down before screaming and cussing. She refused to use oils, but learned some tips that work. We used bubbles which made her happy for the moment, art therapy, breathing, and many questions from material I have from coaching and other sources. She had to think and decided she really wanted to live with more peace.
This was a foster situation and they were not going to allow her to go to her aunts until she learned to “be nice.” She is going now! There are other cases, but these are the most recent and if very damaged children can be helped, then adults can be helped as well.
Carol: Can you share with us please 3-5 tips that offer varying grades of ease when trying to de -stress?
Judi: Yes, simple things like:
• pet the dog
• short positive affirmations repeated over and over
• doing a gratitude list
A number of women that I have worked with say that working with/becoming aware of what they were and are grateful for and especially writing them down and looking at them each morning and before going to sleep, made the biggest difference in their lives.
• Also having 8 to 10 coaching sessions makes a huge difference in a person’s life, again if they really want to change.
• Journaling also helps. It can be done writing, using a recorder and talking or with art.
• I draw stick figures or use color. I am not an artist. There are many ways to journal besides writing. I can’t read my writing, so I also type. Just get it out!
Carol: Judi, can your work be performed remotely?
Judi: Very definitely. Thank God for our modern age! If a client is interested in adding oils, samples can be sent to them.
Carol: Have you created any how to or products that can help our readers easily distress?
Judi: Yes, I have what I call “Joy Cards” which are short and easy to remember positive affirmations. These can be ordered via phone or email.
Carol: Anything else you’d like to share at this time?
Judi: Destressing can be quick, inexpensive and fun!
Carol: What’s the best way for readers to contact you and to find out more about your Joy Cards?
Judi: Phone 480 798 4740