Jack: And that seems to be some common thread. And I’m sure that having money creates those options for them to have more selection and even at a shallow level. Talk about that. What is it that makes that one of those common problems that you see in a lot of your clients?
Jodie: Right. So with money, we can buy anything. We can buy sex. We can even buy love. Or soft love. We can buy adventures. We think we’re buying freedom. We have all this money to basically put out with whatever we want to, and yet, we’re still not getting exactly what we are, what we truly want. What we truly desire.
And I will continue to see that pattern, over and over again, and many of my men come to me with this pattern in relationships, where my man actually coined this phrase of Captain Save a Ho’s.
Jack: Say that again. Captain?
Jodie: Captain Save a Ho. So my men are very successful men. They’re very driven in life. They’re very driven in career. This is, for my athletes, it’s a game for them. Or even my non-athletes, it’s still a game to them.
And so they find themselves in these relationships where the woman doesn’t have that same passion for life that they do. And they’re trying to buy that happiness. They’re feeding her well. They’re buying her fancy cars. Buying her fake boobs. You know. Buying her beauty, basically.
Jack: All the essentials of life, right?
Jodie: All the essentials of life. And in the meantime, she’s at home, drinking wine and popping pills to make herself feel better because her man’s not telling the truth.
And that’s the ugly cycle that continues to happen, over and over again. Because the truth really is that this is not a relationship that I’m supposed to be in.
Jack: Well, I may be uncovering a long held secret, but men sometimes can be lustful creatures, right? Very shallow in their choices, right? In choosing women initially based on physical attributes, right?
Jodie: Absolutely. Absolutely.
Jack: And so, here’s where that success, that financial success enters its ugly head, is that guys that may not be successful financially or reach other success, it’s easy to not get into that when it’s not an option. It’s easy. But a lot of time when guys, when they hit financial success, regardless of the other parts of their lives, what they look like, you know, that right there is enough to be able to choose women to enter in relationships based on purely physical attributes.
Jack: And it sounds to me like once that lustful period is over or once the excitement or the pheromones or whatever you want to call it wears off, they’re finding that they don’t have a partner that they can share the excitement or their passions for life with.
Jack: You see that always stereotyped in movies or TV where the guy has the trophy wife that just wants to sit at home and shop and eat bon bons or whatever, and you can see where the passion doesn’t match up.
Are you saying that that kind of life imitates art in that fashion when people, guys reach that kind of financial success and they’re able to make those choices? That it’s matching up to what we see out there?
Jodie: Yeah. I mean, completely. That’s exactly it. There’s one part of it though that I haven’t noticed all the time. Sometimes, the sex still really is good. Like a lot of my men who are on their second relationship, their second marriage or have had a couple of divorces, the sex is really a centerpiece. It’s really important to me, as it is to us women, too.
However, the sex can be really great, still, but that’s all there is. That’s all there is. And they’re now these men. They’re grown up. They’re grown men. They’re at this point where they’re like, wait a minute. Is this truly what I want? Is this truly just the sex?
And where I lead them is to this point of they can’t have it all. They can have the great sex. They can have.
Jack: It sounds like they thought that that was all. Right? It sounds like they thought that, what’s the old saying? Be careful what you ask for. You just might get it, right?
Jodie: Right. So work is money and home life is sex. That’s it for them.
Jack: Yeah. And the thing is, what it comes down to, when they have this money and it hits them that this is it? Then they have to be asking themselves those questions that why can’t I seem to enjoy the success that I’ve worked hard for. They’ve reached this tangible thing of finances.
Now, they’re chasing this intangible thing of why can’t I seem to enjoy. And the bad thing is, they can’t put their finger on it. They can’t put their finger on what it is and it sounds like that’s where you come in. You guide them to put their finger on it to know why they’re not enjoying that success. Why they can’t find a woman that shares that passion in life for them.
Jack: Why they can’t create that same level of success in other parts of their lives, as they do in their business.
And that can be a hard pill for some guys to swallow. That no, I’m successful. Look what I’ve achieved. And do you find that it’s hard for them to face or accept that maybe they’re not that successful or they need help in these other parts of their lives?
Jodie: It is difficult. It is a difficult thing to swallow. It was difficult for me. I had a lot of masculine energy before my husband died. So I get it. I get what that feels like. So yes, it is definitely, definitely difficult.