Life Coach Niki Brown Discusses How Life Coaching Can Help Women Of All Ages Prosper

                                                      The other thing I think, too, Alesha, we don’t do enough of, is we don’t delegate our authority enough. We do this whole superwoman role. We wear this cape. I’m going to handle it. I’m going to do it. I can’t trust nobody. Nobody can do it better than me. Well, we’re the only ones going to bed crazy and all frustrated, but we have to learn to delegate our authority, and really begin to assess who is with me, who is in my environment? What can I let go of, and give to somebody else to do. No, it will not look like how I would do it, but is that the most important? Will it get done, and those are the things that we have to really be able to hone in on and do.

Alesha Thomas:                 Niki, at your conference, there were women from all walks of life, but there were, also, women consisting of various age groups. You and your speakers were able to connect and identify with every single person there. It was amazing. Everyone could relate to what you were saying. Sitting next to me, I had a woman who must have been in her sixties, beautiful woman in her sixties, and then right behind me were millennials my age, from twenty-five to thirty. We all were so drawn into what you all were saying, and I know that we all took something away from it, because we had our notebooks out, and we were writing information down.

                                                      For those who perhaps may falsely believe that empowerment and life coaches are concretely for women who are well into their careers, who have an established family, who are over the age of thirty-five, married, settled down, whatever may have you, what advice would you give, not only to those women, but, also, to young women, say millennials, who are looking for counsel as well, who may not be so set in their careers, but are looking for clarity, and even looking to find themselves?

Niki Brown:                            Yeah. I think millennials are the best ones to get life coaching. Alesha, historically most people … Let’s just talk about African Americans. We don’t even call out for help unless we’re in a crisis, and by the time we call out for help, and the crisis and what we’re dealing with is so much, even the counselor and the coach feels overwhelmed. We wait, and we wait, and we wait, and these are the women who are already in their thirties and forties, who have sat in a job for twenty-five, thirty years, only to find out, “Oh, my God, I’ve made the wrong decision. I’ve been sitting here for twenty years,” whereas some people may think life coaching is only for that age, honestly speaking, life coaching really should start when you’re in the millennial age, because you haven’t made any major life decisions yet in your relationships, in your career. Maybe you’ve made some major decisions in your schooling, but, hey, you’re still young enough to turn around. When you’re in your thirties and forties, and you’ve got children, and you’ve got bills to pay, and you’re walking already in a certain career path, a professional, it is so much harder to turn around and say, “I’m going to start all over again, because this has been the wrong path I’ve been walking on for ten to fifteen, twenty years.”

                                                      The first thing I would tell millennials is you absolutely need a life coach. It’s like being in high school or college, and you have a college guidance counselor there to guide you, and that’s what a coach does. A coach says, “Hey, before you take this job, let’s really look at all of your skills and assets so far. Let’s start off right from the gate knowing who you are, so you don’t have to figure it out by the time you’re thirty-five and forty, and you’ve wasted twenty years in a place that never really defined you, that never really confirmed you.” What I would say to millennials is you should get a life coach, and it’s the best season and time to get a life coach.

                                                      I just equate that to pre-marital counseling. People like to wait until they get the ring and the date, but really pre-marital counseling should start before you even get a ring and a date, because by the time you do, it’s too late for the counselor to say, “You guys really aren’t meant for each other.” It’s just too late, because I’ve already put the money out. I’ve already told everybody. It’s much harder now to turn around and say, “Oh, okay, we’re not going to get married.” Who is going to do that? Nobody.

                                                      At the age group that you’re in, I think it’s a perfect age to really begin to sit down, clarify your focus. You can walk into that job and tell them exactly what you’re looking for. You can say, “This is where I want to go,” and maybe it won’t be where I want to go for the rest of my life, but I can see, I have mapped out where I want to be for at least the next five to ten years. What an advantage to have, what a platform to walk in with a level of confidence, knowing where you want to go, knowing what options are before you, and knowing that I can get there, I really can, versus when you come out of college, you look back at four years like, “Okay, I got this degree, so what do I do next,” and hoping to find a job, and then if you don’t get a job, what happens to a lot of millennials, they get very depressed, because they’re finding when you get out of college, they’re telling you know your bachelor’s degree is like a high school diploma at this point.

Alesha Thomas

Alesha Thomas is a contributing writer for Business Innovators Magazine and Small Business Trendsetters, covering business leaders in lifestyle and personal development.