Remember, “a merry heart doeth good like medicine.” Now, when my children report something back to me that their father has said about me when I’m not there to defend myself, I try to keep a merry heart and respond with a good laugh.
After all, the only reason someone talks negatively about you, behind your back, is because they are still thinking about you. Somewhere, deep down inside they may still be hurting and may be aiming misguided verbal daggers at you.
Mother Teresa reminds us to continue being loving even if someone in your world may be judging you harshly.
She advises us to keep showing kindness, anyway, even when someone harms us because, “After all it was never between you and them anyway… “
Remember, the way you relate with your former spouse is only between you and God. We can’t control how quickly our former spouse will let go of the negative past, or how swiftly they will forgive us. But, we can control how quickly we choose to forgive them and move forward into a life of peace, joy and happiness!
Carol: Very nice! As usual do you have further questions that you normally leave us with that give us much to think about or consider?
Karyn: Yes. Here are some Points to Ponder:
1. What happy memory do you have of your former spouse that you can share with your children today?
2. What is a positive trait that each one of your adult children have that comes from your former spouse?
3. How can you be a peacemaker for your children’s family of origin by focusing on spreading happier and more humorous memories?
4. Does your attitude towards your former spouse need a tune-up or a time-out?
5. How can you respond positively when your hear negative feedback offered to your children, by your spouse?
6. When would you be willing to let go of the past and step into a brighter, happier frame of mind which will only result in your reclaiming a bright new happy future for yourself and your family?
Carol: Once again, very insightful questions and “Points to Ponder.” This series, Karyn, has proven very resourceful. Not only your shared stories, but the wisdom and ability to offer deep questions and points to consider, plus having the series cover aspects from the parents’ and children’s sides has been very poignant. Thank you for being with us again and I can speak for all our readers in saying: ” we are excited to see the next in the series.”
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Karyn@joycoachingamerica.com
http://www.joycoachingamerica.com
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