Now, they’re chasing this intangible thing of why can’t I seem to enjoy. And the bad thing is, they can’t put their finger on it. They can’t put their finger on what it is and it sounds like that’s where you come in. You guide them to put their finger on it to know why they’re not enjoying that success. Why they can’t find a woman that shares that passion in life for them.
Jodie: Right.
Jack: Why they can’t create that same level of success in other parts of their lives, as they do in their business.
And that can be a hard pill for some guys to swallow. That no, I’m successful. Look what I’ve achieved. And do you find that it’s hard for them to face or accept that maybe they’re not that successful or they need help in these other parts of their lives?
Jodie: It is difficult. It is a difficult thing to swallow. It was difficult for me. I had a lot of masculine energy before my husband died. So I get it. I get what that feels like. So yes, it is definitely, definitely difficult.
So once you can lay that down, once you can lay that weapon down and really step into, okay, well, let me try something different, because this isn’t quite working out.
By the time they come to me, they’re really ready to put that weapon down.
Jack: And that brings me to my next point of this is where I had to face some of that sexism. Men, masculine men, men that have achieved to come to a woman to help them find out these other parts, it reminds me. What was the movie? Arthur. Do you remember that movie, Arthur, with Dudley Moore?
Jodie: Yeah.
Jack: Remember the one scene where he’s sitting at dinner with the woman that was his fiancée, that he didn’t want to marry, right? And she told him, you know, it’s going to take a real woman to get you to stop drinking. And he said, it better be a really big woman. Right?
And that’s what it sounds like to me that you’re not someone that they come to. I immediately thought, well, maybe she’s a shoulder to cry on or something like that.
Jodie: No.
Jack: But it doesn’t sound like it to hear that at all. You are, you kind of whoop them into shape and let them know what’s what. It reminds me of what’s the lady’s name on the Millionaire Matchmaker? Patty, right? Patty Stanton.
Jodie: Right. Right. Yes.
Jack: You know, she doesn’t take anything. She lays it out on the line and it made me understand very quickly how men can defer to a powerful woman in looking for help. And that’s what made me realize, ah, now I see what Jodie’s doing. I see how that energy can actually take control and men will defer that to you.
How does that relationship work? I felt that men might be uncomfortable in talking to you or being vulnerable in what they did. Is it difficult to get them to open up about this stuff?
Jodie: Not at all. It’s actually very easy. It’s so easy, in fact, that sometimes I feel like I just have this presence about me. I’ll be walking through the grocery store or wherever in public, or back when I was on dating sites. I will have men just come to me and confess. Like they’ve never seen me their entire life. Like I’m the priest. It’s time for confession.
But private one-on-one, my guys, they’re ready to speak and completely, they completely trust me. I have this non-judgment about me. It’s not my business to judge. It’s my business to help you remove any shame that you have around it.
So pretty much, you’re here to tell me the truth. Let’s get to the truth. Let’s get ‘er done. That’s what it’s about.
Jack: And that goes back to what we talked about originally, is can you give me an example of what it is, these obstacles they have? You know, we talked about it being, they thought finance was what defined success. Can you give me an example of what happens or how you flip that switch that gets them to see and enlightens them about, oh, this is about truth. This is about recognizing and accepting that this is the situation, rather than what I thought it was
How does that work?
Jodie: Yes. So basically, what I see is truth. I see life. And so, the opposite of that is death or fear or lack. And what I’m really good at is helping people stop BS’ing. Because we’re really, really good at BS’ing ourselves. We’re really good at manipulating our minds in such a way that is not getting us the results that we actually want.
And so what I do with them to flip that switch is, basically, they’ve been believing in the left side of their brain most of their life, right? They’re very logical, sequential, getting their goals met right on time. All of that, that is on that left side of the brain.
But the beauty is really on the right side of the brain. The beauty is in creativity. The beauty is in sexuality and spirituality. That’s all on the right side of the brain.
And what I do is help you strengthen those muscles. Because without those muscles being strengthened, we’re getting nothing done the way we want it to happen in our lives.
Jack: And how often do you uncover, because I’ve got to say, just because of the fact that there’s this false possibly sense of confidence, because of the money, these options for them to pick the wrong women because of the financial success they have, how many, when you start breaking this down for me, do they feel that, wow, if you take away the money, did I really, am I the man that deserve to have this all?
