From that, I wrote a book called, “Hope in the Mourning” about the rich experiences I had in my interviews with a well known professional basketball player. He allowed me to share, with those men in the prison, his experiences with the choices he made as a young boy that helped him turn from being hardened by his childhood, to becoming a softer, gentler husband, father and friend.
Carol: that was quite potent. What an experience for all of you and this certainly did offer how “Hope in the Mourning: Who Will Lullaby the Fathers” came to be.
Carol: What is the single most important idea you’d like to get across in this month’s article on “Hope in the Mourning”?
Karyn: “Hope in the Mourning: Who Will Lullaby the Fathers” is about remembering the sacrifices that the men in our lives have made for us! Many men: husbands and fathers feel forgotten or that their contributions, sacrifices or accomplishments are minimized, go unnoticed. Some feel they are not always appreciated by the women they love; i.e. daughters, mothers, sisters, wives, friends and more. I have found that most men are tender-hearted people too, and have deeply, sensitive hearts. It is my goal to accentuate the need for men to feel loved, respected, honored, valued, validated, appreciated and admired by the women they love and oftentimes, silently worship, not knowing or feeling that they are “good enough.”
Carol: I agree that there are more men than most know who feel forgotten and that much of what they do for so many of us can be or has been minimized or has them feel as though those actions have been minimized. Men also have feelings, sometimes in certain situations more so than women, that go overlooked or not acknowledged. I know much of your work is centered around women. I am so happy to hear of your service with men as well. How appropriate for the month of Father’s day. I most definitely feel and agree they need to be honored and “feel the love” too. Great share as to how this all came to be.
Carol: How exactly are you “accentuating the need for men to be loved, respected…?”
Karyn: I am encouraging first and foremost that Joy Coaches (those Certified under Joy Coaching Academy) attend to the emotional needs of their own sons, husbands, fathers, brothers and dear friends. In our program, we encourage every woman to gain the skills to assist the men they love to experience more self – nurturing time in therapeutic ways AKA “The Healers Touch Method.”
Carol: Great place to start for sure.
Carol: I mentioned in the beginning that I’d like to also discuss “hope” overall, as so many have lost hope.
How does one find hope when so many areas of our lives seem hopeless and no matter what’s been tried, nothing seems to help?
Karyn: We must continue to persevere with positive intentions, always seeking to look on the bright side, to seek to discover the blessings in disguise, and to assure our loved ones that God has not led us this far to just leave us “comfortless.”
Carol: Is Hope found in many denominations or just Christian?
Karyn: Hope is universal! Everyone needs hope! I think everyone in the world is searching for something greater than themselves in which to place their hope. For Christians, it is our “Hope in Christ” that pulls us through the trials and adversities in life. Everyone in the world is searching for something to hold on to… Hope is what pulls us through. Without hope, we feel hopeless….helpless….
Carol: Is hope wishful thinking?
Karyn: Hope is a beautiful blend of belief and faith! It is a gift of the spirit as suggested in Galations 5. I believe hope can be cultivated through positive self-talk, but I believe it goes beyond that. There are times in my life when I have felt myself sinking into despondency or doubt…. that’s when I muster up the courage to say a prayer and ask for the spiritual gift of hope to carry on. It was during my own parents’ divorce that I prayed for my mother to find the gift of hope in a world where the lights suddenly went out. I wrote her a song, “Carry On!” The words to that song gave her a ray of hope, courage and strength to continue pressing forward with an eye of faith.
Carol: How wonderful that you can share such a beautiful heartfelt gift with your Mom.
Karyn: Hope is positive thinking that is fueled by Faith!
Carol: What is the difference between hope and faith?
Karyn: Hope and Faith are like sisters. Hope is like an ember of faith. Fan those hopeful embers and you can ignite a bonfire of faith! Faith can propel us forward when the evidence of things we are hoping for, have not yet been made manifest. Faith keeps our spiritual vision bright as we face the great unknown… our hope is the fuel that sees us through!
Hope is one of the gifts of the spirit listed in the New Testament in Galations 5. Without faith, hope and charity, we would all become discouraged, disappointed and disillusioned with life.
“Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is. And everyone who has this hope in Him purifies himself, just as He is pure.” 1 John 3:2-3.
Romans 15:13 New International Version (NIV)
13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
Carol: Nice! Can anyone find hope?
Karyn: Yes….if we ask, seek, search and desire to have it…we can definitely find at least one tiny ray of hope even when all feels lost.