So we have people who are majoring in life and becoming experts at video games. They’re becoming experts at Grand Theft Auto and Metal Loner. Shooting people and blowing stuff up.
Why not become an expert on your own life? And create the type of life that will make you so fulfilled and so alive and so rich from within that no one can ever take that from you. No one can ever unplug it and knock you back three levels, because it’s your life that you’ve created from within that really, really truly is something that you will have forever, as long as you’re on this planet.
Jack: That’s an important point. Because so many people say I don’t have to, I’d love to go out and help do things. I’d love to really get behind my passion but I’m too busy with my work and video games. And to me, it all comes down to the difference between when people say, well, you know, Jack. I’ve done everything I can do to do this.
And what they are really saying is, you know, Jack, I’ve done everything I’m willing to do to do this.
And the fact is, when you look around, you see someone like you that, at this young age, at 23, five days to live from malaria. Some big decisions to make. Which the point that you brought up is when you’re faced with that, it kind of makes all your other troubles seem kind of trivial. And allows you to focus on what’s really important.
And there’s another same 23-year-old person that’s doing something so insignificant, but that it’s taking up so much of their time that is doesn’t allow them to go out and be that person that they can be.
And I think that is an example of one of the things, a really powerful statement that you had in your book was that every person you meet is either a warning or an example. And I think that’s important because a lot of people when you say that, they start looking outward. They say, oh, let me think of the people I hang out with. Which one of those are warnings and which ones are examples?
But I think one of the things that you say is, no, no, no. Which one are you?
Jairek: Yeah. And it’s something I urge people to do. And everyone knows the answer to that question in their instincts and their gut. Most people don’t want to listen to it.
When you ask the question, here’s the simplest and easiest way to ask the question. Based on your goals, based on who you want to be in the world, I think it was either Wayne Dyer or one of those people in the industry who said, listen. If you want to work backwards, what would you want people to say about you of who you were as a human being at your funeral?
Meaning, 50, 60, 70, 80 years from now you pass away. How do you want people to remember who you are as a person? A new updated way of saying that is the way a good friend of mine said, which is if you were to die, here’s how to know if your life was worth it. Did you really live? Did you really love? Did you really matter?
That third question, how would you want to matter on this planet? What difference would you want to make? Who would you want to be and what would you want your legacy to be?
Based on that, saying, okay. Based on who I want to be, the mark I want to leave on this planet, right now, the way I’m choosing to live my life, am I being an example of how to live your life to become that kind of person? Or am I being a warning of how not to live your life?
And if people answer that question every day, it’s a very easy way to guide you to doing the right thing. Again, does that mean you’re going to be perfect all the time? Not a chance. Personally, in my own experience, I can’t speak for everybody, but I’ve never met someone who has always done the right thing all the time everywhere, every place and every single moment.
Everyone has their moment of screwing up. And there’s nothing wrong with that. If you take that gut check and you say, listen. I’m being a pretty good warning right now. Well, here’s the good news. You have right now in this moment to change your path. To say, listen, I’m no longer going to be a warning. I’m going to choose to be an example.
How am I going to do it? I’m going to clean up my act. I’m going to get my stuff together. I’m going to focus on how I want to live my life. And every day I’m going to take one step forward to make progress towards turning my ideal vision into reality.
And if you look at your life and you’re honest and you’re not being overly confident but you’re just being honest with yourself, and you’re like, listen. I’m being a pretty good example right now. Again, listen, how can I make it better? How can I improve? How can I continue to stay on this path that I’ve worked so hard to build and continue to keep moving forward?
The trick part is that there are a handful of people. I have the privilege to speak to an organization next month called Future Docs. And these are 4,000 students from around the country who are in high school, who decided they’re going to go into the medical profession.
They’re straight A students. They’re some of the hardest working young people out there. They all have to qualify. They need letters of recommendation by their teachers to get into this event we’re doing. And there are Noble Laureates. There are all kinds of very, very high level people in education and science that are speaking.