And I have the privilege to address these young people. And the tricky part is when you’re already doing something that puts you in the place of being an example, sometimes you’re overly critical.
And sometimes doing all the right things but being so critical on yourself is actual being a warning. Which is tricky because you’re doing all the right stuff. You’re a beautiful example of how to succeed in school. How to get great grades. How to do all this stuff.
But emotionally, you’re a warning. Because you’re constantly picking at yourself. You’re constantly beating yourself up. You’re constantly tearing yourself down.
So here’s the other place to use these questions. Comb through what we refer to as those major areas of your life. And say, listen. I’m going to be honest with myself. Overall, I think I’m a pretty good example of life. But I’m going to now comb through each category in my life and see if there’s any place I can improve on that might just be a little bit of a warning.
You know, you’re overly critical of yourself. You’re being a warning. You need to learn how to relax and enjoy yourself more and to really enjoy the process of kicking butt and getting great grades and growing who you are as a person.
If you’re overly critical on your sales techniques, if you’re overly critical on yourself of being an entrepreneur in the world, you need to learn how to enjoy the process more for those guys out there.
And for you ladies, I know you all have that little voice that constantly picks at yourself. You need to learn how to enjoy that process. And how to enjoy critiques from yourself and from others. And really listen to it as ways of people investing and trying to make you better, versus tearing you down or showing you what’s wrong.
And you start to learn these very simple techniques and how to integrate them into who you are as a person. And all of a sudden, everything becomes about helping life improve and helping grow and helping love and expanding who you are as a person and what you do on this planet.
Jack: Yeah. I think it’s important to point out that the example or the warning, there is no neutral. Neutral’s not a choice, right? You’re one or the other.
Jairek: Yeah. The easiest way to think about that is everything in life is either growing or it’s dying. If you don’t believe me, watch a tree.
It’s not that complicated. It’s either growing, giving fruit and expanding and literally getting bigger and getting fruit and offspring all day and all year, or the moment it stops growing and giving fruit, it instantly starts dying. There is no transition period where a tree just sits still. It’s either growing or dying.
Now here’s what’s scary. Sometimes, trees decay from the inside out. Meaning on the outside, it still looks like this powerful strong healthy tree. But on the inside, it literally is decayed. So much so, and I learned this actually when I was stacking lumber up in Canada for three months, doing a hard labor job there. They had me cut down a tree one time and I think they were joking with me.
But I thought they were serious. So I took an axe and went to go hack at a tree. And I swung this axe and hit the tree and when I hit the tree, the axe literally went straight through the tree. And I probably almost took my own head off, because it came through so fast.
And they were all laughing like crazy, all the guys on the work site. And I didn’t know what happened. What it was is that on the outside this tree looked really strong. But on the inside, it had completely rotted away.
And the crazy part is some people’s lives are like that. You look at them on the outside and they look like they’re a strong person, living this amazing life. But on the inside, because they stopped growing, because they stopped feeding their mind and their emotions and their spirit every day, because they stopped really finding ways to improve who they are as a person, they started to decay from within.
And over the years, even though the outside shell looked so strong and healthy, the inside has been torn down and there’s nothing there anymore. It’s empty. And all it takes is one strong strike of life and all of a sudden, it puts them on their knees.
So my advice is to never be that kind of person. Always be the type of person that’s filling and fueling every single day of your life, to make sure that you’re filled up and fueled up with so much powerful, positive information that drives you forward. That nurtures and grows your spirit and your mind and your mental capacity, that is causes you to become the best version of yourself.
Now, how do you do that? Another thing we talked about in our book is there’s a chapter on mental strength. When I talk about when I was told I had five days left to live, I made the decision that I was going to find a reason to live and fight like hell. I had to figure out what were the things I did every single day to actually build that mental strength.
And we go through a whole variety of options, but just a few of my favorites we talked about is #1, having a ritual every single morning to start your day off. And we actually wanted to help people with this, so we created a free gift. I’m sure we’ll tell you about it at the end of the podcast here. But a free gift, which is a simple five minute audio track you can pop in every day and listen to.