And all it does is help walk you through a simple visualization of how your ideal day that day is going to be. Map it out in your head. It always starts with a vision. It always starts with a roadmap of where you want to go and what you want to do. So that’s what we start with. Start off every single day by literally outlining how you want your day to be.
From there, you’ve got to take time for gratitude. There are numerous studies that show people who’ve gone through depression or gone through any type of struggle in their life, when they spend time keeping a gratitude journal, it massively increases their overall attitude and overall happiness over a simple period of time. Ten days, five days, twenty days.
So it’s amazing. It’s simple. You’ve got to start off with your vision. Next, go to gratitude. Fill your mind for at least three minutes. Ideally out loud, so you can feel it and experience it. But speak aloud everything you’re grateful for.
Once you have that, now, start to use affirmations or incantations. Phrases to build into your nervous system how you want to feel and the thoughts you want to think. I mentioned earlier that we all have that little voice in our head that when we least expect it, it starts to beat us up and nitpick and tear us down. You should have done this. You should have done that.
And it’s this annoying little voice that beats us up every now and then. You want to override that voice by filling it and flooding it with all these amazing thoughts that you want to think.
So that’s the next step. Fill it up.
And then the final step is building somethig physically that activates your mind and body and gets you ready for the day.
So we talk about these different types of rituals in this chapter. And it’s stuff that I did literally every single day to get myself on track. And I started that and didn’t realize this.
And I’ve really been doing these types of things for about twelve years now. And I have many, many friends who, they were my roommates when I was living in that little room in the front den of the house. They were my friends when I could barely run a mile. And they watched me all of a sudden running marathons and triathlons within six months to a year later.
They watched me transform as a human being. And it’s not because I got fricking lucky. It’s because I started building these little tiny rituals in the major categories of my life that have caused me to become the way I am today.
I’m not saying I’m the perfect example for everybody. I’m just saying, hey. I figured out what worked for me and I’m trying to inspire and help you figure out what’s going to work for you.
Jack: Habits can be good things. Most people think of habits as bad habits. You know, you hear about bad habits. But developing those habits can be positive.
Jairek: Yeah. I’ve met people all the time who say, you know, I have a problem with addiction. What the hell’s wrong with addiction? Just get addicted to the right stuff.
Nothing wrong with addiction.
Jack: You’re addicted to helping others. And I don’t want to make that sound like as light as it is. But one of the things, when you mentioned about at the end of your life do you matter, one of those things that I think really comes to create that feeling that you have mattered is how you affect other folks.
And one of the things that you do and so much of what you do is not just about your growth. But your growth puts off that fruit like the trees that nourish so many others because of what you do. And that’s where the matter, if you’re going to matter, really comes into play.
And I want to make sure that I get you to talk about, before we wrap it up, that a lot of people, when they think about their growth and getting better and their ideal day, if they don’t think about it, they’re thinking about it’s all about them. It’s a very, my ideal day. My. What do I need? How do I need to do this?
But one of the things that you talk about in that book that seems to just change things exponentially is activating your why.
Jack: And I think it’d be a disservice if we didn’t at least touch on that because all of this stuff has been about “you.” How to better yourself and grow yourself and do this. But it kind of takes care of itself almost once you activate that why.
Jairek: It absolutely does. We share a beautiful, beautiful story of a father and son who, Dick and Rick Hoyt, if you haven’t heard of them. It’s a son who is born where his umbilical cord is wrapped around his head and neck. He was born where the doctors said he was pretty much going to be a vegetable. He wasn’t going to be able to talk and walk or do anything on his own.
And basically, they said why don’t you put him into a home and just leave him there. And the mom and dad looked at each other and said there’s no way we’re going to do that. We’re going to raise him and treat him just like all our other kids.
So when they went to the beach, they took him with them. When they played hockey, they stuck a hockey stick in his hand in a wheelchair and pushed him around like all the other kids.
And finally, I think it was Tufts University up in the Massachusetts area. They created a machine called the Hope Machine that allowed him through literally a little pad on his forehead to move a cursor and spell things out one letter at a time on a computer. To spell out a sentence and then hit a button and the machine would speak this sentence out loud on behalf of him, so that he could talk.