Jack: Don’t try so hard. That’s the message that I get, starting from even the ideal day. What can you do to make it? Not do everything that is required to make that your ideal day, but let’s do something to add to making it towards your ideal day.
Jairek: Even once you paint this perfect picture of your ideal day, instead of trying to make the entire day perfect tomorrow, just say, hey. What’s one thing I can do in my health that would move me closer to how I was in that vision? What’s one thing I can do today in my emotion that would make me feel more like I felt in that vision?
What’s one thing I can do in my professional life that would move me even closer to what I was doing in my ideal day vision?
And you see the pattern here, where it’s one thing every day. And that habitual pattern and ritual you start to create is what creates the rapid results you’re looking for. It’s what creates the momentum that moves you so quickly to turning that day into reality.
But most people think it’s going to be this huge massive shift. One day and one moment it happens. In actuality, it’s the little consistent things stacked on top of each other that build this massive foundation for your life.
Jack: Well, when you talk about one thing, what’s the one thing? I think it’s very important. I want you to kind of give an overview of this. Because you talk about there are major things and there are minor things.
And they’re not all positive. They’re not all things you should do. There are also things that you should not be doing, right?
So talk about that concept about when you talk about the majors and the minors.
Jairek: Absolutely. I learned this from a very, very old mentor of mine who’s passed away now. But there was a gentleman who was huge in the personal development arena. Jim Rohn. He said most people major in minor things.
Meaning most people invest so much of their time, so much of their energy, so much of their thought process in the things that really don’t matter. And nowadays, if you want to look closely at what those things are, and I’ll be very careful, because I don’t want to offend anybody out there who’s in any of these industries, but what level you are in World of Warcraft is seriously not going to affect your health over the next three to five years of your life.
But if you have a child or a young adult, or if you are an adult who plays this, if someone ever unplugs your game console or your computer and it deletes what level you were on, you want to see how people react crazy? What a fifteen year old, or even a forty year old – if you unplug their game console and you knocked them back five levels in World of Warcraft, you will see someone go emotionally berserk.
Why? Because they’re so emotionally invested in this thing called a video game that doesn’t exist. That literally, it feels like you’ve stolen something out of their identity of who they are as a human being, when you mess it up.
And it’s fascinating, the psychological attachment people have nowadays to stuff like this, that in the long run, I know it’s meaningful. I know it takes a lot of effort and a lot of energy and a lot of attention to get yourself there, and I appreciate all the effect and attention and focus.
The part that I get stuck on is if you ask yourself the question, forty years from now, how much is this going to positively or negatively affect my life? The answer is very little.
That is going to have very little effect on who you are as a human being in 25, 30, 40 years from now.
Compared to if you spent that same seven hours of game playing this afternoon instead going and working out. Spending some time learning how to do yoga or meditation or something mindful to fill your mind and clear your mind and get yourself some really solid space, mentally and emotionally. Learning how to build a business online and grow a business. Or start a business. Or go work at something.
If you learn how to build something, create something or deliver something of value to society, how would that change your life 20 years from now?
You’d be a local community leader. You’d be someone people would look up to. All that significance and all those emotional things that that video game fulfills, you get that in real life for who you are naturally as a human being.
You wouldn’t have to try to seek out significance. You would be a person of significance in the community. Because of the difference you truly made in the lives of the people around you. If you just spent that same time doing something of value. Focusing on the majors of who you are and showing other people how to do the same.
Something that simple of a shift can make a massive difference. But the scary statistic is in a strong gamer culture nowadays, the average young person will spend 10,000 hours playing video games by the time they’re 21 years old.
Just to equate how much time that is, that’s the same amount of time a young person would spend from the 5th grade all the way through high school if they had perfect attendance for all those years.
Jack: That’s staggering.
Jairek: That’s how much time people are playing video games by the time they’re twenty-one. It’s scary. And if you’re spending that much time, 10,000 hours if you read the book, I think it was Outliers, is the amount of time it takes to become an absolute standout expert at something.